Today is a good day for writing a blog. It is raining outside which puts any ideas of outdoor activity out of the window, my Dad is listening to classical music in the lounge which is making me feel rather intelligent (Ok I am in a different room but in my opinion if you can hear a violin playing somewhere it means you are somewhat sophisticated), and my cup of tea is at the perfect drinking temperature. The conditions couldn’t be better and thus I am making the most of them to write this post all about…Oooh I wonder what my parents are having for dinner…I hope they don’t use my special spoon…or touch my courgettes…Sorry what was I saying? Ah yes! A post about the difficulty of concentrating on ANYTHING when you are struggling with mental health problems.
I have struggled with concentrating on things ever since I first got ill, but recently the problem has been getting frustratingly worse.The other day I was watching a film, I was staring right at the screen with no background noise or distractions, yet still after 45 minutes I realised that despite being as attentive as possible, I had no idea what was going on or who any of the characters were. In my opinion the plot was simply far too complicated and convoluted with twists and turns I was unable to follow, so I switched it off in annoyance. If the film had been something with multiple realities like Inception or The Matrix, I would have been a little more forgiving of my brain’s inability to understand but this was not Inception or The Matrix. It was Winnie the Pooh, aka a film that has little more plot to understand than “these animals are living in a wood and that yellow bear in the red t-shirt really likes honey”. It isn’t even as if the characters look anything alike, one is a freaking piglet whilst another is a donkey who is clinically depressed and in need of some serious therapy, yet to me they all blended into one, just as all characters do when I watch anything on TV.
It is the same with books. No matter how simple the book, how “easy to follow” the storyline, you can guarantee that I will not be able to concentrate or focus long enough to appreciate it properly and lately I find myself having to read the same pages over and over again before I can gleam any sense or meaning in them. Seriously it could be one of the Mr Men or Little Miss books and I will have to read a page a good ten times to grasp the facts that Little Miss Naughty is:
2. In need of an ASBO (for readers not in the UK an ASBO stands for “anti social behaviour order” which is what the police give you when you have been, as the main character in the aforementioned book is, “rather naughty”/a general nuisance).
With books and films this inability to concentrate isn’t too bad because at least with a film or a book you can wind back the DVD or flip to the previous page to see what you missed whilst your brain was elsewhere. In real life however, you cannot just rewind the bits you missed because people tend to only say things once no matter how hard you point a remote control at them.
I have been thinking about this a lot recently with the summer exam season coming up because I remember being in school and sitting in lessons desperate to get educated but unable to focus or concentrate long enough to know what lesson I was in. Indeed when I first started struggling with mental health problems my grades went down and it made me feel that I must be stupid, when really it was because it is incredibly hard to focus on the world around you when your brain is on fire.
It even happens to me in therapy sessions where we are talking about what is going on in my brain rather than the teleological argument or the significance of the green light in The Great Gatsby (exam hint – it is really significant). The other day I came out of a full hour session and despite listening closely the entire time, as I left, the only thing I could remember was that my therapist had mentioned that she once nearly drove into a cow. I thought this over and over all the way home and for the life of me I couldn’t figure out how we had got onto that topic or indeed how it had been relevant and what help I was supposed to have gathered from it.
Since then I asked my therapist about the “I nearly drove into a cow” incident and I have learned that it was a story about how she nearly drove into a cow at a certain bend in a road and now always slows down for that bend because she associates that bend with wandering cattle, thus making a point about how the brain interprets things and makes permanent links from one off events e.g. between cows and this bend in the road…I think that was the point anyway…or was it that she really liked cows…REGARDLESS of the point she was very understanding, as always, of my inability to concentrate so I wasn’t embarrassed about admitting that our previous session had been a total blur to me, but in real life situations if you keep asking people to repeat things you tend to look rather rude or like you are not concentrating hard enough.
In actual fact the problem isn’t at all to do with how much effort you are putting in or how attentive you are and is all about the mental illness that is wreaking havoc behind your eyeballs.
For example when I am watching a film, lets say Winnie the Pooh, my eyes are watching the yellow bear in the red t-shirt and my ears are hearing something about honey. The information from the screen goes through my eyes and ears, but then when it gets to the place where the brain is supposed to collect the information and take it to the department of comprehension, none of the little brain people are there to pick up the parcel because they are off doing other things. In one lobe OCD is counting the number of breaths I am taking and insisting that some kind of disaster is about to happen because I am sitting a little too far to the left,. A little further along anorexia is dashing about with a calculator, calculating the number of calories in 200g of courgette for the millionth time even though the answer is always the same, and yelling that I should start doing 1000 star jumps incase I wrongly measured the courgettes earlier and accidentally ate an extra gram. Next there is depression generally crying and making everything a bit soggy, telling me that it will only shut up if I kill myself because the sadness will never end, and then finally BPD is there bellowing that all my friends hate me, want to leave and that I should probably text them all urgently begging for forgiveness, texts that, if not replied to within 30 seconds, mean they have probably all fled the country to get away from me.
For people who maybe don’t understand what all those mental health things can feel like when they are all going off at the same time, listening to a friend over a cup of tea is sort of the equivalent of trying to concentrate on a mouse standing on a stage who is whispering the works of Shakespeare, with the Philharmonic Orchestra standing next to you belting out Vivaldi’s four seasons whilst your head is being pecked at by vultures, expired eggs are being thrust under your nose, there is a Scotch Bonnet chilli pepper on your tongue and a Lush employee is vigorously lathering your body with handfuls of body butter. (Again for people who do not live in the UK, “Lush” is a lovely shop against animal testing, that sells things to use in the bathroom and whose employees are highly trained in moisturising anything that moves whether that thing wants to be moisturised or not).
How is ANYONE expected to concentrate when all of that is going on?
If, since becoming mentally ill, you have suddenly become incapable of concentrating at work or in school, I hope you know that, as I have demonstrated, it is not because you are stupid and is most likely to do with the mental health problems you have raging around inside you, so please give yourself a break. Obviously it is still important to work hard, listen in lessons or to friends and try to concentrate on the things you should be concentrating on, but if you can’t don’t beat yourself up about it and don’t be afraid to take breaks and try doing things on a day where your head is perhaps a little quieter/the philharmonic orchestra in my analogy are missing a few of its trumpets.
You often hear people accuse people they don’t think are listening of being “day dreaming”, but sometimes, when mental health problems really get hold of you, it is more likely you will feel as if you are stuck in a nightmare.
Take care everyone x
10 thoughts on “The Difficulty Of Concentrating When You Have Mental Health Problems”
OMG … every week your post is so accurate to my current situation. My concentration is shit, like I can’t watch complicated movies, because I cant concentrate for 2 hours straight (so I watch movie for children like Disney 😀 ). I have an exam tomorrow and all I can think of is how I’m going to fail and I can’t concentrate on studying :(. My therapist says that it is because of my low weight, but I think it is because I’m stupid (my weight isn’t that low) 😦
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Hehe thank you! Can’t go wrong with a bit of Disney though eh? I have to say that like you, they tend to be my safe films and I have watched them all so many times 🙈 I think a lot of things can affect concentration and without wanting to sound like your therapist, low weight is one of those things! You may not be able to see it yourself but trust the professionals! Either way good luck with your exam tomorrow, I will keep my fingers crossed for you! Remember no matter what happens exams can be redone and looking after yourself is the priority! Good luck my dear 💕 xxxxx
Ugh, I am so sorry you’re going through this. It just sounds terrible. At certain points in my life, I have greatly struggled with concentration. I remember one period of time, I was working at a big tech company and I was looking at my computer screen and couldn’t comprehend a damn thing. Words just looked like squiggles in my brain (and no, there was no problem with my eyes). It was just the most bizarre thing. I told my psychiatrist what was going on and I believe I was put on some medication to increase alertness or something? Because I was also nodding off in meetings with managers. It wasn’t good. Eventually it did get better. I know right now it feels like things are never going to get better, but I totally believe things can!
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Omg yes! I totally relate to the squiggles! It is so annoying! Thank you for reassuring me that it will get better though, I will trust you on that and keep my fingers crossed for the day squiggles make sense again!
Thank you, Katie, I needed to read this today. Your Shakespearean mouse analogy pretty much summarizes my life right now. While I hate that other people also have horrendous orchestral music in their heads deafening them to everything in “real life”, it’s nice to know that some people get it.
Stephanie (aka singingbutterflies on youtube 🙂 )
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YAY! Thank you so much for liking this and for being someone who I can relate to! I feel less alone! Also it is lovely to meet you on a first name basis 😊 hope you are having a good day despite all the orchestral noise and remember I am here if you need xxx
It is hard, if not impossible, for those who have not experienced this to truly appreciate the gravity. Your description of OCD is so familiar. Mine is all in my head (isn’t that an understatement!) and the compulsive behaviors are there too. I can certainly relate to the fear of harming others with thoughts, actions, etc. It is not gone, but I have learned over the years to put it in better perspective. It was when I realized that, if I had the power to do what I thought I was doing, I was given something quite amazing. Not only that, but I was woefully underperforming if that was the case. Surely, if I had that much impact on the events and lives of others, I should be intervening in world affairs or doing something other than wringing my hands. If my putting on the green pajamas when the blue ones needed washing was going to end in the demise of someone in India, then I might as well just do what I want because this train had no conductor. I also wondered why such awesome power would be given to someone who clearly was incapable of harnessing it and hopelessly unaware of when it might actually impact someone. I used to avoid cracks, and at 86, my mother’s back is going to curve whether I avoid the crack or step into a pit (remember the old rhyme, step on a crack, break your mother’s back? I took it seriously). Why would I have a power that there was really no way of confirming or denying? For me, it was that reality that we don’t have control, that life brings sudden, and sometimes very unpleasant changes for reasons we will never know that started leading me to understand that my OCD behaviors were really trying to bring order and predictability to the disordered and unpredictable. They controlled the fear that the only one sure thing in this life is change, and in so doing, they totally consumed and controlled me. It is not easy to challenge them; my Faith is a big help, but even believing as I do, those OCD intrusions are hard to ignore. It is hard to step on that crack. OCD doesn’t follow the principles of common sense. I am in no way presuming that my perspective and insights into my OCD would in any way apply to others, nor do I intend to minimize the pain that this causes. It is just to let you know that you are not alone. I most definitely believe that you are gifted and talented and have many powers (positive ones). You may go very far using those gifts. You are already off to a great start with your blog.
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Oh my goodness I relate to EVERY single word of this comment and find it especially significant this week after the attack in Manchester. The attack on Monday really sparked my OCD into wanting me to be able to protect people and stop that kind of thing from happening again. It is EXACTLY like you said and has made me realise that OCD thoughts are trying to bring order to the disordered and unpredictable madness of the world. You could not be more correct or wise and just oh my goodness you have done it again. Made me feel less alone and more understood. Thank you so much for always being such a support. It is such a comfort. You definitely have some positive powers and gifts of your own. Thank you so much and sorry if my replies are often repetitive, I just am running out of words to show gratitude xxxxx
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You were the person I thought of when I learned of the attack Monday night. I knew your thoughts as I have had them so many times. Please don’t apologize as you are not repetitive and need not hunt for words of gratitude. I was chastised all my life for being repetitive and it is really just OCD (for me at least). Continue to write and that will be more than enough. Here’s to a quiet week 🥂
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Fingers crossed! 🤞🏼❤️ xxxx
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